Sunday, September 4, 2011

A Facebook Question That Opened Me Up

Via my girl Tiffany Chevelle: "Can u love someone u haven't really been around? Yet you know them better than someone u have...? If so, what would u do to be with them"? I thought this was a very real and interesting question to ask. What do you think?
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  • Sam Pinon and Tiffany Chevelle like this.

    • Tiffany Chevelle I am interested in getting everyone's opinion also....
      5 hours ago ·  ·  1 person

    • Samantha Wienke I think you can definitely can fall in love with idea of someone...and that can be a very powerful and compelling thing. So says Confuciuos Sam! Lol
      5 hours ago ·  ·  3 people

    • Jason Jahah Berry To me...this is a great question! I know there are other ppl out there who have gone or are going through something like this. However, some ppl are too afraid to admit it or too hard inside to deal with their real emotions. I have a feeling the responses will only come from women because most men are not in tune with this type of emotion. I don't mind talking about "Love" and what comes with it. Ppl are gonna talk behind your back anyway (regardless). Love can be many things and the experience...well...I won't get it in to that right now.
      5 hours ago ·  ·  2 people

    • Tiffany Chevelle I think often men are, yet are afraid to embrace it & speak about it in a discussion... they do not want to come off soft or admit when they put themselves out there...
      5 hours ago ·  ·  2 people

    • Trice Conde Absolutely!! I agree will Samantha... you fall in love wtih the idea of who you "think" that person is! Once around them you will know if its love or infatuation
      5 hours ago ·  ·  3 people

    • Jason Jahah Berry Trice Conde: I agree with you in many ways. All relationships start off smooth and they make you feel so high! After 2 or 3 months the attraction you have for the other person is not as's the character of the person and your daily interaction with them that starts to count (more importantly). Can you deal with the person you're attracted to on the daily basis? Is this person too much for you to deal with? Can you see yourself being around this person day in and day out? Sometimes you just gotta take a leap in the dark and see if what you think is actually something else...lust, comfort, security, infatuation. Do the pros and the cons and try to be realistic. Time will always tell you the truth.
      5 hours ago ·  ·  2 people

    • Samantha Wienke Jason, you hit the nail on the head!
      5 hours ago · 

    • Jessi Relano Wow jason.this question really makes you think
      4 hours ago · 

    • Jason Jahah Berry Jessi Relano: Yes it does. That's why I re-posted it! I can't take credit for the question. Tiffany Chevelle is the one...
      2 hours ago · 

    • Jessi Relano Lol...i do think you can fall for someone you don't see very often
      about an hour ago · 

    • Greg Burns Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase~Martin Luther King Jr.
      about an hour ago · 

    • Dres ThaBeatnik Well, Speaking as the Minority in this Thread. I think that it is possible, very possible but, with that in the terms that we're speaking of, it involves the Risk of no reciprocity. You can be in Love with the idea that is that Person but if the Person doesn't reciprocate it can be damaging especially to a Man's Ego. I've had that happen to me on more than one time in My Life. Where I fell for a Girl(while a Young Boy) & with a Woman(while a Man) and the Response was less than Favorable. Like recently, I started dating a Woman that i had known for Over a Year, we were good friends. Not Great Friends mostly because I didn't want to get Put in the Friend Zone. She had been out of a Relationship for over 6 mos and had given me every indication that She was ready to try to be in a Relationship. I told Her that I actually wanted to take things Slow but I liked Her... I mean I really liked Her and the feeling was mutual. Or so I thought. Within a Month we had went from enjoying each others company and gaining a better understand of who the other person was to Her saying, "I haven't put things where they need to be with My Ex. I need to get Myself together & I don't want to do this with You Half-Assed". You figure "it's only a Month, it shouldn't matter" But I Feel like I did everything by the Book the way it was supposed to be done and that was the result? Needless to say, I was a bit taken back by all of it but I kept my cool about it but inside I really didn't want to. I wanted to snap on Her but all I could hear in My Head was "it's only a Month, i shouldn't matter". But it left Me with so many questions. I really don't wanna see/date anyone else and if waiting is what I need to do until She's ready then so be it. I got things to do to better myself and this should only Help right? Feels like a Bonnie Raitt song if You ask Me. "I Can't Make You Love Me" I feel like this Person is worth the wait cause She's the Right person for Me and My Understanding of Who I am and what My Place & worth is in this World!! And I for Her!!
      Music video by Bonnie Raitt performing I Can't Make You Love Me. (P) (C) 2010 Ca...See More

      about an hour ago ·  · 

    • Jason Jahah Berry My dude Dres ThaBeatnik! Now that's a honest response that I did not expect from "any" male figure...let alone Tha Beatnik. I admire your willingness to speak on something that is/was personal to you! I like the "wait" part near the end. I hope everything works out for the two of you and that the "one month" will turn into 3, then 6, then a year, then several years etc. Thanks for sharing bro! Oh yeah', the Bonnie Raitt joint is a classic. Awesome song!
      2 minutes ago · 

I thought the above was a great question because I've had to ask myself this question in the past. I'm usually the type of person who knows exactly what I want and then I go after it. However, I'm very analytic when it comes to making decisions and I do my best not react on emotion. I feel like I'm always in my own head analyzing (perhaps over analyzing) my situation and what to do with it when sometimes I just need to take a risk. 

Over the past 2 years I've gotten a lot better at taking risks and letting go to let God do His will. I still have days and moments when I try to control everything but I am making constant efforts to let go and allow God to direct me. I'm in desperate need of His guidance! 

I often ask God to speak to me clearly so I can make the right decisions for myself and those around me that I love. Lately I've been battling with my decision making which is really unlike me to do! There are new things in my life that I would like to pursue and fear has held me back from doing so. I feel like if I make the wrong decision I will end up self-destructing and my life will forever be altered. On the other hand, I feel like if I don't take a risk I may lose an opportunity to truly be fulfilled and the thought of losing this opportunity is driving me crazy! 

Above, Dres Tha Beatnik said he is willing to wait for what he believes is probably his soul mate. I wonder if my opportunity will wait for me? The odds don't look to be in my favor but I was once told that God doesn't give anything you can't handle.

Something is telling me I'm not handling things very well...


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